I became excited about 10 years ago when I was first introduced to a principle that others had adapted of living a life where my priorities would come first and obligations would be handled after the priorities were satisfied. This seemed like a wonderful way to live and at the same time a very daunting principle to establish and live by. Yet successful people I was studying and associating with were doing just that and wanted to teach me and my family how to do just that!!
The first step to implementing this lifestyle is to clearly define what my priorities are and ask the hard questions of what obligations stood in the way. The tools we used to start came from our LIFE business education system. A key component to begin is to create a mission statement for you and your family and clearly define what is important to you. I found the book “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” by Stephen R. Covey, instrumental for us to begin to clearly define our priorities. Covey walks through a life changing process that will help change your thinking. One thing I have learned beyond a reasonable doubt is that all change and true success begins with a change in our thinking. You see my wife and I had been raised or programmed to believe that to chase the “American Dream” of material wealth and power was where true happiness or joy would be for us. That could not have been further from the truth!! It seemed every time we got that next thing or the next income increase we became further indebted to others and the short term excitement wore off quickly and created a void which we then wanted to fill with the next material upgrade. Basically, I felt as though I had “sold my soul to the company store” and created a bondage to the bank which forced me to spend my time doing work more than any other activity. It is interesting that as we sat down to clearly define our priorities in life, that work ended up on the bottom of the list. We found that what we truly valued the most were centered around God and family, not work and wealth.
The real eye-opener for us was when we said okay these are our real priorities, how much time do we spend doing and/or living them on a daily basis? What I found for me was that my life was consumed in chasing the dollar to the point where somewhere between 70-90 physical hrs per week were spent on the job and another 10-20 mental hrs were consumed in running my construction business. Well assuming a 16 hr day, when not sleeping, I was spending about 100 of 112 available hours to the job and only 12 to my God and family! The LIFE business and TEAM leadership has taught me how to reverse those numbers and we feel so blessed to have experienced this change in our lifestyle.
The bottom line on learning new habits and changing our lifestyle to live out priorities instead of our obligations is learning to take a stand and lead. My mentor George Guzzardo, posted on 4/12/2013, in his blog article, “A call to stand up and Lead” , We see the philosophy of relativism becoming prevalent in our world. Cinematic, political, and journalistic influences distract us by redefining traditional values. The classical theory of truth was held by virtually everyone until the nineteenth century. Today, post modernism and relativism rejects the theory of truth.
These influences have over time harnessed us and confused us and have tore away at the true core values that I believe most people have yet feel unable to really live. Today, I say to you take the time to evaluate the truth in your life and stand up and lead your family to what you value as a priority for your future! Come join us in Madison WI, on April 16th, from 8-10pm, at the Alliant Energy Center to hear ORRIN WOODWARD teach us how to do just that! God Bless, Bob